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“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” ─ A. A. Milne

Many of my clients find themselves stuck between this and that . This is about now in the present moment. That is about over there somewhere in the future. There are people who at times will just make do until they decide whatever is their most significant “this or that.” They will say something like that they will just have to settle with what is until they can figure it out.

There are many parts to this dilemma. Choice has been abandoned because a person does not want to make a mistake. While feeling stuck a person may decide something in their mind like I will go and find a new job. However, no action is taken, perhaps the person really doesn’t want a new job, and then nothing happens to give their life any type of forward movement. If the choice between this and that does not promote enthusiasm, excitement, curiosity, or generates any kind of interest one might do nothing. Emily Dickinson’s poem simply and succinctly explains why.

That it will never come again
Is what makes life so sweet.
Believing what we don’t believe
Does not exhilarate.

Making do is a situation

“You make do with what you have. As you age you learn even to be happy with what you have.” ─ Haruki Murakami

If you cannot accept and be happy with what you have then the situation is about settling for something that is merely adequate and not that bad because the person is caught in the middle of this or that. These middle energies can consist of an energetic inaction such as procrastination, sleeping too much, using distractions such as TV watching or playing video games which puts off a needed new option, choice or alternative.

Consider starting and taking the first step right where you are. Everyone has some type of dream that their feminine soul would like to experience and fulfill. Sometimes the masculine spirit is not helpful in manifesting that dream.

She doesn’t settle for less

Than her soul deserves;

she is brave and beautiful,

tender and fierce;

And when she sets her sights

on something, she doesn’t

stop dreaming until it’s true. ─ Mark Anthony

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